I started a journal in my teenage years but I never stuck with it. I have some ideas about what keeps me from consistently writing but I’ll save that for another day.
I’m back to writing again for myself but not yet on a regular basis. The difference this time around is that I’m more focused about the things I desire in my life. I know what I want and I know exactly what I need. I maintain a list of what I want and what I need. I look at these lists on a regular basis so I can remind myself of my desires, stay focus, assess the situation and see if anything needs to be added or updated.
The following information is from the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project. Please read and share the knowledge with others.
Physical and sexual assaults, or threats to commit them, are the most apparent forms of domestic violence and are usually the actions that allow others to become aware of the problem. However, regular use of other abusive behaviors by the batterer, when reinforced by one or more acts of physical violence, make up a larger system of abuse. Although physical assaults may occur once or occasionally, they instill threat of future violent attacks and allow the abuser to take control of the women’s life and circumstances.
The Power and Control diagram is a particularly helpful tool in understanding the overall patter of abusive and violent behaviors, which are used by a batterer to establish and maintain control over his partner. Very often, one or more violent incidents are accompanied by an array of these other types of abuse. They are less easily identified, yet firmly establish a pattern of intimidation and control in the relationship.