For about four years, I have been an extreme pessimist when it comes to making New Year Resolutions. I decided to only set personal goals for myself instead of resolutions. Some goals are short-term (days, weeks and months) and others are long-term (months and years).

I will not make any New Years Resolutions for 2008 nor any other year.

Last years resolution was to go to the gym regularly and lose weight. I failed miserably and felt really bad about it. No more.

Now, I figure that if it happens, it will happen when I am ready for it to happen. Just like the new job. Previous years, I did a whole lot of talking about getting a new job, but no action. In July, I became determined and focused to search for a new job. My current (and soon to be ex-job on January 4, 2008) position is hell. I put a lot of hours into working on my KSAs (Knowledge, Skills and Abilities for the resume impaired) for a new position. I wanted to make sure that another agency would look at my paperwork and say, damn this is good. I want her on our team.

I do not know why, but for some reason when people find out that you got a new job, a common question is: How did you get that job? Or how did you do it? When you first hear that question, you just want to give that person a blank stare, what do you mean exactly? I am not quite sure of what they want to hear. That I slept with the manager and got an interview the next day? I stole your friend’s resume and put my name on it? Well no, I did not do that.

I filled out an application like anyone else could have. What I tell them is that I got the job because I wanted it bad. I stayed focused and determined and despite many days and nights when I wanted to give up, I did not give up. I did not have a lot of patience when it came to waiting on a call for an interview. But to get me through this, I prayed and talked to loved ones and friends about my concerns. When I did get the call for an interview this month, I went into the interview prepared, dressed for success, gave excellent eye contact, answered questions correctly and without hesitation.

So just like getting a new job, I know that I will start losing weight when I am ready and focused. I do not need a New Years Resolution for that.

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