Greetings missnexus.com readers, I am disappointed to hear that Six Flags discriminates against potential employees with dreadlocks. Far from an “extreme” hairstyle, dreadlocks (or “locks”) are a natural way of wearing hair for huge numbers of people. I find it…
This Friday Five is very similar to an original Friday Five post five years ago. Oh well. 1. What type of hair do you have? (Thin, Normal, Thick, Frizzy, etc.) My hair is very thick and coarse. 2. What color…
I made a decision about four weeks ago to stop putting chemical based relaxers in my hair. After nearly twenty years of relaxing my hair, I now realize that my hair and scalp deserve better. I have now eliminated the Motions, Dudley or whatever other brand name of relaxers is available from my old hair routine. I am now working toward deep conditioning my hair once a week and reducing the amount of heat that I apply to my hair. It may take a long while before my virgin hair (non-relaxed hair) grows out enough so I can cut the remaining part of my relaxed hair.
A few years ago, I lost a patch of hair near the top of my scalp. I was devastated and could not determine if it happened due to stress, the relaxer or both. Thankfully, I had a good hair dresser who was able to style my hair and hide the bald patch while my scalp healed and hair grew back.
I wondered at the time, would I ever get a hair transplant if I loss too much hair and it never grew back or I loss so much hair that I could not hide it. I would strongly a hair transplant if the patch was larger and never grew back. I did not know that there were many women who received hair transplants, until I came across Dr. Shapiro’s Hair Institute site. His company provides hair transplants with a unique surgery for women and men. If you call 1-800-799-HAIR (4247), you may be eligible for a free consultation today.
Saturday night, JT, mom and I ordered out for Chinese food. We decided to feed the children first, because one: William and Keisha were already hungry and we had not ordered yet. I gave them catfish nuggets, salad and pudding for dessert. And two: we knew that they would not let us eat in peace (as usual). So I fed them as planned, then about 30-45 minutes later they went up to their room to play.
Downstairs, we watched a movie while we ate the Chinese food. My order was simple this time, half order of chicken fried rice and crab rangoon *drool*. About 45 minutes into the movie, I heard Keisha crying on the baby monitor. She seemed to be in distress, so I dashed upstairs. I walked into the room, waiting to see why my daughter was so troubled. I looked at her and she has a toothbrush in her hand and toothpaste all over her hands, face and everywhere in the room.
I started feeling like my temperature is rising, but it is only me getting pissed off. I held most of the anger inside and instead of giving a nice little whooping, I decided to stay calm and collect. Keisha continued to look at me, wondering what the hell I was going to do to her. I began looking around the room for the tube of toothpaste but I could not find it. I asked Keisha where the toothpaste was, but she shrugged her shoulders like she did not know what I was saying.
I grabbed some wet wipes and cleaned her hands and face. All throughout this time, William was hovering in the background. I would love to know what he was thinking. I asked Keisha, why she opened the toothpaste and squirted it all over the floor, bed, toys, stuffed animals and herself. She looked down and did not say anything. I lifted her chin up and directed her toward me. I told her that the toothpaste is not a toy and she should not have squirted it everywhere. She started to cry and I asked her why she was crying… “You did it!” She looked at me crazy but stopped crying.
I can finally say that last week is over. On the other hand, the emotions that I felt and events that took place carry over to this week and future weeks to come.
Monday night, I was not sure how I would get through the week. I prayed, talked with JT about the issues, spoke with a good friend and took one day at a time. A couple of years ago I learned that I should not let things beyond my control worry me. This is a lesson not learned overnight though, and I think that I have only begun to put that in practice within the last year.
Why is it hard to not worry about the things outside of my control? When I say worry, I really mean, let it weigh heavily on my mind to the point where it effects other aspects of daily living. This is hard because I feel that there is a fix to the problems at hand. The fix is by no means easy and is definitely a long-term committment but still, I feel that all hope is not lost.
How do we work toward fixing the problems? Counseling, attending church, prayer, talking to the Pastor, talking to best friends, writing, music, exercising, healty diet, love for each other and self, respect, honesty and communicating with each other. I am not saying that I have all of the definite answers to the equation. Relationships are not like Differential Equations (okay maybe the tension of working through the problem is similar) but what I am saying that this is how I feel. I feel that if we do these things, the relationship will get better. I am trying to hold on to that hope.
Yesterday, we took William to the doctor to get blood work done. The visit was much faster than we anticipated. William’s nurse was able to draw the blood from William with little pain. JT and I will take William back to the hospital on Monday for his first scheduled transfusion. Thinking about what William goes through makes me very sad, but I continue to pray for the well-being of my son and family. I believe that JT and I have made the
Later that day, we spent time with one of JT’s closest friends and her daughter. We had a lovely time while we ate at Red Lobster. I had a shrimp combo with fried, scampi and coconut shrimp. I really, really love the coconut shrimp with the pineapple dipping sauce. Delicious. The little cup of dipping sauce was extremely thin and runny, so I asked for more and the next cup was just fine. Of course I loaded on the cheddar biscuits.
G and K spent a little time with us that evening. Later, L came over to do my hair. I got a relaxer, which was well overdue, and a rollerset. As usual, William and Keisha battled over who was going to sit in my lap while L did my hair.
The meeting today went better than I thought that it would. I appreciate the comments from JJ and Nik, showing their support. I was up most of the night doing my hair and despite the fact that I couldn’t straighten it quite the way I wanted, when I curled it this morning I was fairly pleased. I would go absolutely insane if I curled my hair every morning because it takes me at least an hour and forty-five minutes.
I had a whole lot to say but now I’m exhausted.
So Fran emailed me the other day and told me that she wasn’t able to comment on the site. I wonder if this has been happening to a lot of people because I haven’t had many comments in a long while. I just thought that no one cared anymore lol… If you are having the same problem, please leave a comment on the contact page. Describe what the problem is. If it is related to the bot check, I want to know so I can correct the issue.
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Twins update: Keisha is now completely over the loose BMs. William had the sniffles this morning so I hope he is not coming down with a cold. We have two Baby Einstein DVDs in the collection, ‘Numbers Nursery’ and ‘Language Nursery.’ The twins love to watch these videos and I love Baby Einstein even more because they are educational, keep the twins occupied and you can select REPEAT MODE. JT and I look forward to adding to the collection soon. I recommend this series to all infants and toddlers. In other news, Keisha continues to cry and cry and cry everytime I comb her hair, so I have developed a method where if I comb her hair while she drinks her morning bottle, she won’t cry because she is so into the comfort of her little belly being filled up with Enfamil Lipil with Iron. Parents you have to learn the art of being slick with your children at an early age. We must outsmart them.
Everyday, someone in a truck drops off about eleventeen heathens next door. What the hell is going on next door, some kind of indoor summer camp? Either that or they must all be cousins who really enjoy each other’s companies :eh: I’ve labeled them as heathens because I’m tired of them eating their damn candy in the front yard and having candy wrappers every where. Who is the damn MOD over there? I need to find out. If it keeps up, I plan to say a word or two to the children. I’ll be nice… at first. I’ll even politely ask them to pick up after themselves or just not eat the candy in the front yards in the first place. They must be taking it easy inside today instead of running amok outside. I haven’t seen them outside all day. I wonder if these heathens were the same ones who were popping fire works from dusk to dawn on July 4, 5 and 6. :roll:
I’m supposed to be getting my hair braided today… I’m still waiting on the status of that. You know, I haven’t had my hair relaxed since November 2003 and you can really tell by looking at my hair. My hair isn’t nappy, but it is very thick. I stopped going to the hairdresser four weeks ago. The reasons why include: as a pregnant woman, my tolerance for waiting to be seen had decreased… I feel that if my appointment is at 9am, I better be seen at 9am (although it just doesn’t quite work like that in 99.97% of black hair salons) and my hair is so thick now that if I get it washed, blow dried and curled with the iron, within one hour after walking into the Saint Louis humidity, my curls start to fall.
The most recent time that I got my hair done really sucked because it was actually looking good for a couple of days then BAM it rained in the middle of the week. I didn’t get wet :relieved:, but the humidity frizzled my hair up like I was from the Mother Country. I was heated. :rant:
Thanks Tee *hugs* for letting me know my comments were jacked up. You all should be able to comment again lol..
More Pictures (taken today):
I got my hair done this morning (in record timing) and you really cannot even tell because Mother Nature had the nerve to have it raining all day!! I really did not even care that Mother Nature tore up my hair because I was still shocked that I was up and out of a black hair salon after approximately one hour. You just cannot beat that. Now if she had taken four hours to do my do and then my curls fell after ten minutes… then I would be hella pissed. My hair is still growing and I am sick and tired of everyone asking me if I am pregnant because my hair is growing so fast LOL Maybe I just got Indian in my family and I got good hair, did you ever think of that? LMAO