I despise when a person asks someone a question and when that said person begins to respond, you interrupt them over and over again. You know what that shows? That shows that you really didn’t want to know that persons response to begin with. You already have a set idea in your head and you asking the question are merely other ways to stir up or continue the argument. Communication in any relationship is extremely important. Unless you are a hermit, you must communicate successfully in order to advance in life and achieve your goals.

One difficult part of this is learning to communicate with someone who doesn’t want to communicate. How exactly do you do that? In my old way of thinking, if you didn’t want to communicate, I would make a few attempts but after so long, I would just let you be. That guy that didn’t want to commit in college? Bye bye. Met you at the club, we hang out for a few months then out of nowhere you stop calling? Bye bye. Things are different now. I’m not that person anymore and the circumstances have changed.

If you consistently interrupt me, this makes me feel that you really don’t want to communicate. What I have to do is, not get caught up that person’s path of destructiveness. Unfortunately, I have found myself in this situation far too frequently. The best way that I have been able to overcome this scenario is by letting that person vent. Ultimately, that is what the person wants to do; create a monologue of why the person of pissed of. After the person is done venting then I express my point of view. This doesn’t always work, but this method has been most successful for me. This works better than yelling back, lying, speaking in a condescending tone or not saying anything at all.

This has been a long journey for me and quite a learning experience of how important communication is in all aspects of my life.

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