The Murder of Black Women
July 30th, 2003
I received the following as a forward in my inbox. Very powerful words, but I do not understand why the prose ends with “Children’s Rhymes, by Langston Hughes,” because based on my research this is the poem entitled “Children’s Rhymes.”
Have you received this email? Do you know the real source of this prose?
The Murder of Black Women; The Apology
Have a seat sister; this may take a while. Don’t be afraid. The two pistols you see smoking in my hands are harmless now.
Both clips are empty, much like a Larry Elders speech. And even though I was aiming at the System when I first unloaded shots into the air, I see now that I missed the target.
The System remains intact while you sit wounded and battle-weary from decades of bullets being lodged deep into your heart and soul.
I murdered you many times. Still, you didn’t die: not even once.
I apologize for abandoning you and leaving you to fend for yourself in a world as cruel as it is cold. I should have supported you when you offered to be apart of the struggle.
But the struggle was an internal one as well as an external one, and I was losing on both fronts. I got mad at you for straightening your hair, for slow dancing in the arms of white men, for challenging my manhood and comparing it to other races. I hated the way the System divided us by promoting you and demoting me, but instead of uniting with you and having your back, I attacked you and left you alone in your grief.
I apologize for flaunting white women in your face as soon as I got money or fame. I was suffering from a mental illness that had me believing that my self-worth had to be approved by blue eyes. I know it hurt you to see me betray you so quickly, so easily, and so often. I had you feeling as though you were not worthy to be in my arms when the opposite was true. I as not worthy of yours.
Monday Mission
July 29th, 2003
Monday Mission 3.30
1. Have you ever had, or known someone who has had, a “Mid-Life Crisis?” What happened? Is there such a thing or is it just an excuse?
I do not know anyone personally that has had one, but I have heard about them. I do think they are very possible, but also preventable.
2. Have you ever had a dream so vivid, that you woke up with certain emotions towards a person for what happened in your dream, even though they didn’t do a thing to deserve it in real life? What did you feel and and what was the dream?
Yes, I have awaken and been very angry at a particular person and took out the anger on the person even though the particular person did not do a thing to me!! I eventually apologized.
3. How do you express your creativity? Have you ever made money from it?
I express my creativity through photography. I have not made money from it YET. I am working on this. In high school, I played the violin for a brief time and I used to draw a lot. I also express my creativity through poetry.
4. Has anything you created ever been stolen? How did you handle it?
Thankfully, no or shall I say, not that I am aware of. I would be furious and disappointed because I put a great deal of effort and time into my work and I feel it should not be stolen.
5. Do you think downloading music via file sharing is “stealing?” Is taking songs without paying for them any different than someone taking your work without your permission?
If you are sharing the music, then no I do not feel this is stealing, but on the other hand if you are selling it without the artists’ permission then yes, this is stealing.
Letter to MJ Morning Show
July 28th, 2003
A couple of weeks ago I wrote a letter to MJ on the behalf of Carmen and I. The first time I sent it, MJ opened it within an hour. I know this because I received a return receipt via Outlook, but this does not mean he read it. He did not respond, but then I found out that the crew went on vacation the following Monday. I sent the email again last week and MJ has yet to respond. Read the email below and tell us how we can spiffy it up. It would of course help a little if you have heard the show before, but if you are good with words or getting someone’s attention, please feel free to post your comments and ideas!! Carmen and I wanna be on da URRR.
—–Original Message—–
From: Rashaan [mailto:missnexus]
Sent: Wednesday, July 23, 2003 9:10 AM
To: ‘mjkelli’
Subject: >>Two black girls from St. Louis would like to challenge your interns
Resending this just in case you missed it the first time when you were on vacation!!
Sincerely,
Rashaan
[insert our cell phone numbers here, so MJ can call us live on the air]
—–Original Message—–
From: Rashaan [mailto:missnexus]
Sent: Wednesday, July 02, 2003 9:03 PM
To: ‘mjkelli’
Subject: Two black girls from St. Louis would like to challenge your interns
Dear MJ,
Woman Threatens to Leap from Millenium
July 26th, 2003
Woman threatens to leap from Millenium
Police and firefighters attached ropes to a woman who had been threatening to leap from the Millenium Hotel in downtown St. Louis this afternoon. After an ordeal of about two hours, she was removed from a ledge of the hotel without incident.
The drama started around noon as the unidentified woman went onto a ledge toward the northwest quadrant of the circular hotel, facing toward Broadway. Dozens of firefighters and police reponded to the scene. She was brought down at about 2:07 p.m. today.
Two or three officers tried to talk her off the ledge, sometimes appearing to have heated discussions. Meanwhile, firefighters stretched a net — possibly 300 to 400 square feet — affixed at two corners from two windows of the hotel and hoisted on the other two corners by fire trucks.
By nearly 2 p.m., police appeared to have attached ropes to the woman, who at times dangled her legs off a ledge high up the hotel. Sometimes she was lying down.
Traffic has been tied up in downtown St. Louis throughout, as police cleared the area of pedestrians and blocked traffic on Broadway, roughly between Walnut to the north and Clark to the south.
From: STLToday.com
Friday Five
July 25th, 2003
1. If your life were a movie, what would the title be?
Soulmates Dissipate
2. What songs would be on the soundtrack?
This Woman’s Work, How Can I Ease the Pain, Overjoyed, a bunch of Miles Davis, John Coltrane, Erykah Badu, Lauryn Hill, Jill Scott and Me’Shell Ndegeocello.
3. Would it be a live-action film or animated? Why?
It would be a live-action film with a very surrealistic feeling and mind set because this is often how I view my life.
4. Casting: who would play you, members of your family, friends, etc?
I would have some unknown actress play me, like an intelligent woman from some Sundance movie. The other cast members would be local actors and actresses.
5. Describe the movie preview/trailer.
The opening would have my character sitting in a park on a bench watching people pass by. You would not be able to see my face but the mood is calm, a little Coultrane playing in the background and I look down and start reading a selection from a poem my character wrote. As I read the poem, the people start to fade away and then the trailer fades to black.
Monday Mission
July 22nd, 2003
Monday Mission 3.29, one day late.
1. Have you ever been in a situation where you were worried sick about something/someone and your mind played out horrible outcomes? What was the situation and what did your imagination come up with? How did it all turn out?
Yes, just last week I was worried to DEATH when JT did not come home around the time that he usually does. He did not have a cell phone, so I could not get in touch with him. I was thinking about all kinds of crazy things… what if he fell asleep on the road and got into a car accident or what if someone hit him!! I was going nuts, but thankfully he was safe and chillin with a friend :/
2. Are there any superstitions that you believe in, or just do out of habit? Do you feel like it makes a difference?
I really do not have any superstitions. AAH yes, except for splitting poles and walking on cracks. Splitting poles is when you are walking with someone in particular and a pole comes between you. I will not splite the pole, meaning I will go out of my way to walk on the same side as whoever I am walking with. And of course, if you step on a crack, you break your mother’s back.
3. Spiders, mice, insects, blood, being home alone at night…some folks I know told me that those things really scare them. What frightens you?
Snakes scare me a little, spiders suck (the big ones creep me out), roaches and water bugs are evil and beetles give me the heebie jeebies.
4. Has there ever been a time where you were too proud to ask for help? What was the situation, and did you ever finally ask?
Sometimes this happens to me when I do not want to ask for help because I think the other person will be like, “Oh Rashaan, you should know this!” So rather than face that, I will often try to do oit myself.
Patience is a Virtue
July 21st, 2003
The older I get, the more I realize that I am not a very patient woman. I am a difficult and demanding person. If things do not go my way, I am quick to interrogate. On the other hand, I might hold my feelings in, but you will see the impatience and frustration in my face. This has become worse with age.
Why is that?
Maybe part of me got tired of unfulfilled promises. Daddy talking about he is going to take us to Six
Flags, he is going to take us to Birmingham and Memphis to see our cousins, he is going to buy me a car when I turn 16, oops well things weren’t right
then…so he is going to buy me a car [insert date here]. All that shit got old with the quickness.
And it is not even about being spoiled. JT says I am spoiled, but I beg to differ. Why would a parent (or anyone else) consistently make promises to someone and not fulfill them? I just cannot find the logic in such actions. I made a promise TO MYSELF to not do this to my future children. All of those dead end promises really lowers my expectations in that person.
The unfortunate thing is that I now apply this to other aspects of my life. If someone makes sure to me that they are going to do something and they don’t, the fury rises within.
“Rashaan, we’re going to the movies this Friday.”
“Mmmmhmmm, yeah ok.”
This is only one example, but I often give those dull, nonchalant responses in similar situations because I hate getting disappointed. Things often come up or people forget. I rarely get surprised about an event until the day of or when I am there. Even before my trip to New York, I was not really excited until that night and even more so that morning. I often place my mind in a pessimistic zone where I expect for things to go wrong and to be disappointed. I subconsciously apply everything that happen to me as a child to my adult life.
My patience wears thin when things go wrong.
Friday Five
July 18th, 2003
Warning: This is going to be a dull Friday Five because I do not feel like giving out details for these answers mmkay.
1. When was the last time you cheated?
I have never cheated on my significant other.
2. When was the last time you stole?
Something minor, but I take extra packs of jelly from the cafeteria for my sandwich everyday. I see no point in having to pay extra money for packs of
jelly!!
3. When was the last time you lied?
I do not really remember… I detest lying, so I do my best to not to lie myself. Not even white lies.
4. When was the last time you broke or vandalized another’s property?
I have never vandalized any property. I missed out on a lot as a youngin :/
5. When was the last time you hurt a loved one?
A few months ago.
The Nun teaching Sunday School was speaking to her class one Sunday morning and she asked the question, “When you die and go to Heaven which part of your body goes first?”
Suzie raised her hand and said, “I think it’s your hands.”
“Why do you think it’s your hands, Suzie?”
Suzie replied, “… Because when you pray, you hold your hands together in front of you and God just takes your hands first!”
“What a wonderful answer!” the Nun said.
Little Johnny raised his hand and said, “Sister, I think it’s your legs”.
The Nun looked at him with the strangest look on her face. “Now, Little Johnny, why do you think it would be your legs?”
Little Johnny said, “Well, I walked into Mommy and Daddy’s bedroom the other night, Mommy had her legs straight up in the air and she was saying, ‘O God, I’m coming!’ If Dad hadn’t had her pinned down, we’d have lost her.”
The Nun fainted …
Yeaaah Right
July 17th, 2003
Part two of my New York trip will be posted this evening!!
So good to see a fellow intelligent sista from St. Louis on the internet:
http://www.renaissancesistah.com/
Warning: Garbage Alert Ahead
Well, I do not believe in fairy tales, But I will try this just for grins and if it works, then great, If not then chalk another one up for the experience. Lisa Winter
“Christie Mueller” mueller @showme.net 06/25/03 09:48PM
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